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Newsletter 030
In "Self Improvement Front Line" this week:
* How to Control Your Inner Battleground
* Where Is Your Life Going?
* The 7 Steps to Becoming a PUblic Speaking Failure
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How to Control Your Inner Battleground
You only have to watch the Tv news or read a newspaper to see
all the conflict there is around the world. The so-called
"War on Terrorism" is kept at the forefront of our attention
by the media but there are many other wars and struggles all
around the globe.
Sadly for most of us there is little outwardly that we can do
as individuals to resolve these conflicts. But acting with
honesty, sincerity and love is the only way that we can
ultimately have any influence on others.
However there is another type of conflict that can affect you
and over which you can have much more control. That is the
perceived conflict that can occur in your life.
You will be affected by both the external factors of what's
going on in the world around you and by your inner feelings
and emotions that are aroused. You will experience the same
ups and downs,actions and reactions,and victories and defeats
that happen in war. Sometimes it will seem that you are
living in your own private battelgorund and you may not
always know how to react.
But there are things you can do to take control and so if
you find yourself troubled by the apparent illusion of
peace and war in your life consider the following actions:
1. Count Your Blessings for there are many blessings right
before you. No crisis can occur without a blessing, and there
will be no death without life, no killing without conceiving,
no alienating without embracing and no union without division.
This is the magnificent journey of a whole and spiritual
human life.
2. Be attentive and always seek the equal and opposite side to
everything you become exposed to through the media. It's easy
to get sucked in by sensationalist views but there are always
two sides to every story if you take the time to look. With
an honest and open mind you will find the truth.
3. In war you will see how, when more troops begin to gather
for an attack, more troops also begin to gather for defence.
See also the balance of joy and sorrow on the faces of the
people you encounter every day or see on TV news films. So
accept that the good and bad, happy and sad, emotions that
you experience are a part of your being and by doing so you
will far more easily be able to find inner contentment.
4. Keep focussing on what your inner self inspires you to
be, to do and to have in your life. Constantly seek to refine
these feelings and build upon them so that they become the
driving force behind your life. As long as you are focusing
on the flowers and not the weeds, beautiful gardens and
flowers become formed. And always remember that one mans
flower is another mans weed.
5. You are often influenced by others and their apparent
qualities so Identify inside yourself where you have the traits
you imagine they have and act upon them. And rather than
looking to citicise and attack others instead look at yourself
and try to eliminate your own faults, because you undoubtedly
have some! Remember that What you condemn you breed, attract
or become. So the more consciously reflective you try to be,
the more inspired and influential you will become.
Conflict and the inevitable differences of action, opinion,
emotion and thought it causes is a natural occurrence. But by
having a way of dealing with them you will be able to gain
the life you want.
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Where Is Your Life Going?
By Michael A. Verdicchio
Is your life all that you desire it to be right now? Where
do you want your life to go? One of the biggest things
that will hinder you from reaching your goals and dreams is
to focus on your current situation.
Have you ever stopped to consider that your current
situation right now in your life is simply your current
situation? And most people will think, act, react, and
respond because of how they see themselves right now.
Some who desire to bring their life to a new and better
level many times simply go in circles never making any
progress. One of the biggest problems is that they spend
too much time and energy wondering why they are in their
current state.
They analyze everything around them and try to come up with
valid reasons as to why things are not going the way that
they really desire them to. As they continue in this
process, they blame other people and other things for their
lack of success.
Others come to the conclusion that it is all just, "meant
to be." Or, "there must be a reason for why things are the
way they are." Some even blame God by saying, "He must
have a purpose for all this."
Spending time and focusing on your current situation will
never get you to where you want your life to be. It is a
waste of your precious time and energy! Instead of asking
yourself, "Why am I in this situation?" ask yourself, "What
do I want?"
When you begin to shift your energy from where you are to
where you desire to be, then things start to happen. Why?
Because your brain will put its attention on what you tell
it is important. It is the way the Creator designed our
grey matter to work!
Have you ever been on your computer and clicked to open
your word processing program? If your computer is working
properly, then that program would open. Our brains act in
a similar fashion.
That's why when all your time and energy is spent on your
present situation, your brain will work hard to reinforce
and keep your situation intact, without change! If your
word processing program is open on the computer, but you
really want to open your music program, then that is not
going to happen until you open that program! As long as
you continue working on the word processing program, all
the wishing and wanting the music program does not get it
up on the screen!
And, sadly, so often, people just sit and feel sorry for
themselves. They do not like where their lives are right
now, but that is all they think about and talk about. All
that does is reinforce to the computer in their head that
this is where they must stay.
I want to challenge you. Make a conscious effort to stop
dwelling on your current situation and circumstances. I
didn't say ignore your responsibilities. Stop putting your
focus, your mental energy, your thinking, and your speech
on your current situation today.
Instead, for the next three weeks, make a very concerted
effort to put a lot of focus and attention on what you
desire for your life. Refuse to entertain any negative
thoughts of where you are today. Delete them just like you
delete a "pop-up" on the computer!
Picture in your mind your ideal life in every detail.
Write it down on paper. Read it; say it aloud; pray about
it; think about all through the day. Do whatever works for
you to keep your mental focus and energy on what you desire
for your life. All throughout the day refuse to speak any
negatives concerning your current situation. Instead, speak
about your desires and what you fully expect for your life.
If you will do this diligently for three weeks, you will
have initiated a major change of focus in your mind. You
will begin to believe that you can have your dreams and
desires. And as you continue to keep your focus on those
dreams and desires, you are going to start seeing doors
open for you and find opportunities made available to you.
And perhaps the most rewarding part of this exercise is
that you will be aware that you are no longer just
accepting your life the way it is, but that you are truly
on your journey.
About the Author:
Listen to one of Michael A. Verdicchio's Pep Talks at
http://www.MikesPepTalks.com/christians2free.html
Michael has a free newsletter called, THE PEP LETTER, at
http://www.christianinspirationalgifts.com/pepletter.html
Michael is a husband, father, minister, author, and
broadcaster. He has been the voice on numerous productions
over the years.
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The 7 Steps to Becoming a PUblic Speaking Failure
Learning to speak in public with confidence is a surefire way
of boosting your self-confidence. Doing so gives you a real
challenge and because it is actually really easy to achieve can
give a you huge sense of satisfaction and achievement.
Why not take the first step today by getting a copy of "How to
Become a Confident and Persuasive Public Speaker". You can find
out more by simply clicking on the link below:
http://www.selfimprovementskills.com/publicspeaking.html
You will learn many time-proven techniques for becoming an
accomplished speech maker and discover too some of the things
to avoid. In all endeavours there is the right way and, of
course, the wrong way!
Here are seven ways to ensure you fail!!:
1. Don't Prepare - It is vital that you spend time planning a
speech, gathering information for it, preparing it, and
rehearsing thoroughly.
2. Don't Know Your Topic - There are many people who, when
making a speech, will simply read from a script, sometimes
using other people's material. To them the subject is
irrelevant, but that will soon come across to their audience
too! It is essential that you speak about a topic you know
about, are genuinely interested in, and can enthuse about,
if you actually want anyone to listen.
3. Don't Have Structure - A good speech should flow like a good
book. It should have an effective opening, a main body with
a number of points which move logically forwards, and an
ending that will be remembered.
4. Don't Grab The Attention of Your Audience - At the beginning
of your speech you must make your audience sit up and listen.
Use a startling fact, a pertinent question, or a challenging
quotation.
5. Don't Look Good - It won't matter how good your talk is if
you don't pay attention to your appearance. Make sure you
look clean and tidy and dress appropriately for the
occassion. And don't stand with your hands in your pockets,
or keep hopping from foot to foot. Your audience will soon
be put off.
6. Don't Sound Good - It is vital that when you rehearse you pay
attention to how you sound. There's nothing worse than a dull
monotone voice, so put expression into your speech. Remember
that nerves can make you talk more quickly and affect your
breathing. So control your breathing, try some exercises, and
don't be afraid to build pauses into your talk.
7. Don't Leave Your Audience With Something Memorable - No
matter how good your subject matter, if you don't ensure your
audience remembers it you will have failed. So end with a
challenge or a call to action so that they have to act on
what they've just heard.
Learning to speak in public is just one way of challenging
yourself and developing a new and worthwhile skill. I recommend
it as it helped transform me from a quiet and unsure young man
into a confident and successful business manager.
So why not take action yourself and start by getting a copy of
"How to Become a Confident and Persuasive Public Speaker".
Simply click the link below now:
http://www.selfimprovementskills.com/publicspeaking.html
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