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Newsletter 023
In "Self Improvement Front Line" this week:
* 7 Steps To Managing Your Goals
* How to Destroy Your Negative Beliefs
* Why an Email Changed My Plans
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7 Steps To Managing Your Goals
The subject of goal setting is really important in ensuring you
have a direction in life and a way to get to your destination.
So having goals and being able to use them effectively is a
must. But how many goals should you set?
Well there is no right or wrong answer to that as each of us is
different and looking to achieve different things.
We are all going to have long-term goals that set down where we
will be in, say, 5 years time. (Note it should be stated as
where you WILL be in 5 years not where you want to be or hope
to be - always be positive.)
Equally you will have medium-term goals - you probably, like
most people, set goals at the start of each year for what you
are going to do that year. That's OK as long as they are
properly formulated, written goals that are SMART - remember
what that means: Specific; Measurable; Achievable; Realistic;
and Time-Constrained.
But also you will have short-term goals, such as simply the
things you do each day, week, or month. When you learned about
time management, using a closed daily task list was
recommended so that each day you simply tick off your tasks as
you complete them.Your goal then is completing everything on
your list.
So you may have a long-term goal, 4 or 5 medium-term ones, and
several short-term.Just how do you manage them and ensure each
is followed through?
All of your goals require some of your resources: time, money,
effort, etc and as these resources are limited, your goals can
sometimes appear to conflict with one another.If you work on
one will it mean falling down on another?
Well no, it shouldn't, but good management is essential and
these tips will help you in managing all of your goals:
#1 Always Write Down Your Goals
I know I'm repeating myself here but if you fail to do this
one simple thing you will fail to achieve your goals. It can
be completing the simple daily task list as already mentioned
for short-term goals, or a full statement of the goal and it's
outcome for your ultimate long-term goal. Just be sure to do
it!
#2 Break The Goals Down
The easiest way to achieve your goals is to break them down
into smaller manageable chunks. Schedule tasks relating to
each part of the goal so that each day you know exactly what
steps you have to take.
#3 Be Realistic
Having a number of goals all running at the same time is OK
but be realistic about what you can achieve in any given
time-frame. Don't overload yourself with tasks.
#4 Stagger Your Goals
Don't fall into the trap of having all your goals due for
completion at the same time. That's why setting New Years
Resolutions as goals is not a great idea as the deadlines
all come together. That will only increase the stress and
lead to frustration causing you to become de-motivated.
#5 Mix Simple and Difficult Goals
Always work on simple and difficult goals at the same time.
Just working on the challenging, long-term goals can be
stressful but having simpler, short-term goals that will
give you quick results will boost your enthusiasm and
motivation for the harder tasks you need to do.
#6 Be Flexible
Whilst it is important to have time-frames and measurable
targets for your goals, it will be counter-productive if
they become unrealistic. So rather than becoming
frustrated and giving up just adjust your goals so that
they become achievable again.Even if you have to put a
goal on hold it is not a problem as long as you are
managing it and that you write down what you plan to do.
#7 Don't Let Your Goals Control You
The whole point of having goals in your life is to ensure
that you achieve the things you want to do. They are the
means to getting to where you want to be and becoming the
person you desire. If doing the tasks associated with them
starts to become a chore then you are getting it wrong.
You must retain control and be happy doing what is
required.
My #1 Goal begins, "Each day I wake up feeling happy..."
It's a pretty good place to start!
You can get help with your goal-setting by using the
"Achieve-IT! Goal Software".
You can find out more at:
http://thimarket5.goalset05.hop.clickbank.net/
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How to Destroy Your Negative Beliefs
If there is one thing that determines so much of how we feel
and act in life it is what we believe about ourselves. Many of
the expectations we have of about ourselves come from our
beliefs. For example, if you have a belief that you cannot
succeed in your career or in your personal life than you are
going to question the validity you have in that area. Doubting
yourself can lead to a lack of confidence to accomplish what
you need to.
You may believe that you are incompetent, not loved, not in
control,powerless, etc. Whatever it is, it has the potential
to prevent you from achieving what you need to.
So What Do You Do?
You Can Destroy Your Negative Beliefs
There is an answer to rid yourself of your beliefs. Once you
know what your negative core beliefs are you can begin to
challenge them.
Challenge Your Negative Beliefs
Step # 1
Write down the negative belief you want to challenge on a
piece of paper.
Step # 2
Make a list, below your belief, of several reasons why your
negative belief is not true. (If you find this too difficult,
then use a friend or therapist to help you find reasons why
your belief is not true).
Step # 3
Repeat step # 2 for as long as necessary. You may want to do
it over a period of a month. You can even practice this for
a few months as necessary until your negative belief is
severely weakened.
After you keep getting evidence that your negative belief is
not true you can start to replace your negative belief with a
more positive one.
A Practical Example
Let's say that Jill has a core belief that she is "a failure."
She would write that down on a piece of paper, then find
several reasons why that isn't true, for example:
1. I had a good job for several years, which I was
successful at.
2. I helped doing volunteer work successfully.
3. I raised children to be good people.
4. I am a great spouse to my husband.
5. People think highly of me.
The main idea is to keep doing this until you really get
through to yourself.
You can get more step-by-step advice and solutions to stress
relief by downloading this free special report:
http://www.stressfreesecrets.com/specialreport.pdf
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Why an Email Changed My Plans
I was planning to write this week a little about how your
subconscious mind has such power in your decision making
processes.
All of your experiences in the past will help shape what you
do today because you become conditioned to react in a
particular manner based on what is stored in your subconscious.
Similarly if you think or act in a negative way then that
negativity will be picked up by your subconscious and will in
turn influence your actions and decisions.
So always being positive is essential! But so too is constantly
challenging yourself and the things that have shaped you. You
should develop new skills and experiences, in fact try to do
something new each day.
But that's what I was going to write about...but then I checked
my emails and found one that was very interesting. Now I don't
believe in coincidence, rather I'm of the opinion that you make
things happen. So getting this particular message was meant to
be and so I want to pass it on to you.
The email was from someone who I first became aware of a few
years back, who I have met, and who has influenced me in many
ways.He is a very successful business man, especially online,
but tends to keep a low profile and hates the idea of being
referred to as a "guru". But he is very intelligent and comes
up with some thought provoking ideas.
I don't have a link to one of his products or anything like
that but if you "Google" his name you can find out more about
him - it's Phil Gosling.
Now the email is about the very topic I wanted to discuss but
is written in a far better way than I could manage. It is
rather long though so I'm not going to include it here but in
a few moments I'm going to get the whole thing sent on to you
as it makes fascinating reading.
So be sure to look out for the email from me shortly.
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